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Why I Stopped Being An Astrologer and The Meaning Of My North Node

It’s been almost a year since I made my official announcement that I was going to stop doing astrology readings. After doing that and then revamping this blog, things have changed significantly in my life. For a while now, I thought it would be great to give you just one more article about this whole journey of mine. December of this year will be the official end of my first Saturn Return and it has been such a rewarding time of growth for me. Deciding to stop being an astrologer has been a part of that growth.
Many people were wondering why I not only stopped doing readings but why I decided to change this blog. There were also quite a few people who were not happy about me doing so. Among the negative responses I got, one person told me that I ruined their favorite blog due to “capitalism”, another person told me (in caps, which I hate because it's basically someone raising their voice at me) that my struggle over whether or not I should keep doing it all, like stopping my YouTu…

Moon-Ascendant Aspects: The Reactor

Being the reactor comes with the territory of having Moon conjunct, square, opposite, sextile, or trine the Ascendant. If the Ascendant is what we lead with, then having the Moon in aspect to it in your birth chart means that you lead with your emotions and your gut-felt reactions. The Ascendant, in and of itself, is quite reactionary and instinctive, as well, just not as much on an emotional level. As a result, even if the Moon or the Rising sign are in Air, you’re not too much of a thinker. Instead, you are a responder, someone who just goes with whatever their gut or their heart is telling them. This means that you live a very emotionally charged life, for better or for worse.

You’re always going to go with what you’re feeling. It doesn’t even matter how appropriate it is or isn’t for the situation. If that’s so wrong, then why does it feel so right? Seeing how the Moon is the inner child, there is something childlike about you in that way. No matter how old you get, you never seem able to fully censor your emotional responses. In fact, even when you would like to filter those reactions or when you believe you are, you’re really not. It’s when you try to hide your feelings that they’re even more obvious, especially if you have the conjunction, square, or opposition. Moon-Ascendant people never really leave that stage in life of pure, raw emotional honesty. There are pros and cons to this, of course. While it can make you a particularly vulnerable, emotionally aware individual, which will serve you very well in any sort of artistic endeavor (something many Moon-Ascendant folks gravitate toward), it also means that you’re a very messy, very moody being.

The Ascendant shows how people generally see and know you. With a Moon-Ascendant aspect, you are known for that moodiness, the way you have of being up and down or on and off. The thing is that you know this about yourself, too, albeit somewhat unconsciously. You might catch yourself constantly saying that you’re “in the mood” or “not in the mood” for something. What you do or don’t “feel like” is also a go-to phrase. While you are very sensitive to others, there are definitely times where your feelings take top priority. This is when you switch into one of your moods and you don’t care how it affects the atmosphere. The signs that your Moon and Ascendant are in show how you express your moodiness and why. But, regardless, it definitely creates a shift in the overall vibe of a room. You know how to read a room very well yet you also want the room to read you well and know where you stand emotionally. So, you totally put those feelings out there.

A constant switch in your personality is displayed between the staunch protector and the emotional wreck, the caring maternal figure and the vulnerable child. This is due to your relationship with your mom and her having such an exceptional influence on you. Moon-Ascendant people are typically very close to their mothers while growing up, to a degree that eclipses the relationship with the dad. She becomes the overwhelming, dominant, or even sole influence in the child’s life. Somehow, you leaned a lot on her and she was the person you looked to first. You can unknowingly take on a lot of the mother’s characteristics. This might be evident early in life but it could take until adulthood for you to see the imprint of your mother on your temperament.

More than most people, you can be surprised to sit back and realize, now that you’re a grown up, how much you act like your Mom. Some would say that this aspect also means looking a lot like your mother. While that definitely can be true, anyone with any aspect can look a lot like either of their biological parents. So, it’s a bit redundant to say so. It’s more so about inheriting her behavior. Even if you try to not be like her, you may unconsciously go down the same path, cultivate the same sort of habits and patterns or end up with a very similar life. Depending on what’s going on with your Moon, that can be seen by you as a great thing or a not-so-great thing. I think, no matter what the relationship is, you do have to give credit to how much your mother figure shaped you. For better or for worse, you wouldn’t really be who you are now without that relationship.

The state of your bond with your maternal parent also indicates just how much you are or aren’t willing to express your needs. If you felt very supported and safe with her, then you will be more eager to let people take care of you. But, the opposite may have been true, especially since there are many Moon-Ascendant people who felt like mothers to their own mothers. So, this conditioned a belief within you that it was your role in life to take care of other people. This makes you an exceptional nurturer to others yet you may have a hard time receiving that nurturing from people, believing you must take care of yourself. On the flip side, if you’re more comfortable getting your needs met by others, it can be harder for you to break that sense of emotional dependency and take care of yourself. Again, either you are being the child or the mom (whether you’re male or female).

You’ll be in a good place when you know how to both take care of yourself and others, how to let people be there for you while also being there for yourself when needed. In your case, to know who you are (Ascendant) means to know what you feel (Moon). This means staying in touch with yourself emotionally and also using your intuition to understand what’s going on with other people and how to be supportive toward them. Your intuitive powers are very pronounced. If you always go with your gut, you will rarely, if ever, be wrong. This is something that can make you highly irrational, though, because you may be operating on sheer reaction or emotion instead. After all, feeling like a crazy person is also a hallmark of this placement. Intuition is something slightly different than emotion, though. It’s a clear yet mysterious inner knowing and you’ve possessed it all of your life. They say “a mother always knows” and that’s true of you because you somehow always know what’s really going on and why.

This gives you a comforting aura that makes people feel supported and protected. People who don’t even know you feel compelled to let their guard down around you and you find it very easy, sometimes too easy, to get others to open up. Maybe it’s your own air of vulnerability and intimacy that makes people want to spill. You’re a safe space for others to turn to. Because your demeanor is so lunar, you’re notably feminine, in some way, regardless of your gender. If you’re a woman, you have very pronounced maternal instincts and will also feel more deeply influenced by your biological cycles than most other women. If you’re a man, you feel like you have your own monthly cycle to deal with, figuratively speaking. You’re more sensitive, more responsive, more complicated than many expect men to be and this may be hard to deal with if you’re heterosexual. But, this is just what makes you wonderfully you and it’s something to be embraced.

The softness and fluidity of the Moon extends to your appearance in some vital way. You might have skin that is particularly smooth, sensitive, or well-hydrated. Blessed with a baby face, you may not need a lot of moisturizer because your skin is just fine so long as you’re drinking enough water and washing it sensibly. Your eyes may be distinctly “watery”, as well. An annoying thing about this placement is that you easily look like you’re going to cry, when you’re not, or that people feel like you’re upset about something when you’re not. But, that’s because you’re always transmitting such strong emotional vibes, without even trying. There is a soulfulness to your appearance that draws people in. Those feminine lunar vibes also mean that the women with this placement usually have very womanly bodies: curvaceous or voluptuous in some sense. The appearance of the men is never overly masculine. Something about their body seems softer or more vulnerable. Bloat can occur easily and the stomach is usually either very taut or naturally blessed with a little “love.”

Being such a warm safe space for other people is what really draws you toward being a parent and having a family. You’ve been taking care of people ever since you can remember, whether that’s been emotionally immature parents or younger family members or friends in need who you treat like family. So, it’s only natural for you to step into the role of parenting since you pretty much already are one. Still, once you do actually become a parent, it will truly change your life, more so than the next person. Those with the Moon in aspect to their Ascendant usually state that they feel like completely different people after having a child or didn’t even truly know who they were until they had a child. Once you do, you just have to trust your instincts, like you always do. Though you’ll make mistakes like any parent, you also have some deep inner knowledge that goes beyond any baby book or advice someone can give. You already know how to care for others and when your precious baby comes along, you will instinctively know just what to do.

Moon conjunct Ascendant: Due to the conjunction, you’re a total embodiment of your Moon sign. All of your feelings, needs, and complexes are out there for everyone to see. You will see yourself as an emotional mess, much of the time, but you have a very real, vulnerable quality that is highly appreciated. It’s just important for you to learn how to manage your moods and not take things too personally. When you can truly self-soothe, you’ll be able to nurture others with more balance.

Moon square Ascendant: Having the square makes you highly self-protective. A part of you doesn’t want people to know what you’re feeling yet you’re also compelled to let it all hang out because you just want to know that people care. This creates a lot of defenses or insecurities that you will have to work through in order to be more emotionally balanced. You’re just as protective over others and, at times, may need to be reminded to not be too interfering or smothering with loved ones. 

Moon opposite Ascendant: With the opposition, you feel like you are always taking care of other people. It’s hardest for you, of the group, to see yourself as the one who needs be cared for. This makes your vulnerability a blind spot that you will need other sensitive, caring people to reveal to you. It takes you a while to emotionally invest in someone but, once you do, you will always be there for them. This creates relationships that are a nice safe haven for both people involved.

Moon sextile or trine Ascendant: The ease of the sextile or the trine makes you least likely to be too consumed with lunacy. You know how to be in touch with your emotions and express them readily without letting them overwhelm your sense of reason. You also provide a warm shoulder for others to lean on. However, there are still times where your moods or needs get the best of you. It’s hard for you to see what you’re doing as irrational because it usually just makes a lot of sense to you.

This article is included in my e-book, Aspects in Astrology, which features many of my old articles from this blog on the various natal planetary aspects. Some of these articles have been updated and rewritten while there are also entirely new profiles included on aspects to the Ascendant and Midheaven and aspects between the outer planets. 

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